In any relationship or friendship, if you find that you’re having to pretend to be something or someone that you’re not – walk away, or be real. I know that sounds really blunt and harsh but I’ve seen this so many times, and I myself am someone that has tripped at this hurdle. For example: You see someone, who is naturally a bookworm, but because their ‘friends’ are into more materialistic things and they want to fit in, they begin to change. They give all their books away and throw away something that is a part of them. They morph into a not-quite-clone and still feel lost despite appearing to have the same interests as those around them. We need to surround ourselves with people that…get us. We’re not robots and it’s refreshing that we don’t all have the same sense of humour, or facial features. The more false relationships you have around you, the more lost you’re going to feel. I’m so happy I have people around me that accept me for me. I’m not perfect and am not saying we should be stagnant. I’m basically saying – if your favourite colour is purple, don’t change it to red just because Suzy’s is. We should just be adhering to the correction of wise people and GROWING.
“I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations.” – Unknown. I’M SO HAPPY TO BE FREE FROM THAT!
About a year ago, I’ll never forget this, my close friend said to me, “Don’t change, just grow.” I instantly knew what she was talking about. I was trying to fit in somewhere, where I simply did not fit, rather than trying to grow in Christ and become a better me. I wasted soooo much energy on that. It’s really draining trying to be someone you’re not, especially when it’s through jealousy. Just imagine starting a jigsaw puzzle and fitting pieces together that aren’t meant to be. You won’t complete it successfully and, quite simply, it will look a mess.
Let’s not try to be other people, let’s be better me’s (may not be grammatically correct, but hey). Let’s discuss this below!
Please note: I’m not referring to looking up to people that are good examples 🙂